Errr… Um… Happy Ex-Spouse Day??
Posted April 14, 2012on:
Okay, I admit, I have no idea where to go with this one.
I mean, most of the time, when a marriage ends, it’s cause for at least a little bit of mourning, sad reflection, or at least a regret or two.
So, it seems odd to have a “holiday” for Ex-Spouse Day.
Most of the time, when a day is set aside to honor a certain specific group of people (think Mother’s Day, Father’s Day, Administrative Professional’s Day), it’s in recognition of the contribution that group makes to society as a whole. But, ask any divorced person- especially a recently divorced person- and they’ll tell you that their ex-spouse is “good for nuttin’!” So, what is the holiday for?
My first thought was that it was kind of a “say what you really think of your ex-spouse”, or a “get revenge on your ex-spouse”, or maybe a “play a funny prank on your ex-spouse” day. Or maybe, since somewhere between 41 and 50% of first marriages end in divorce, with the percentages of second and third marriages that end in divorce being even higher, maybe it’s more of a call for solidarity? There are a great many Ex-Spouses around, after all, so a chance to swap war stories over a few drinks seems in order.
Actually, no- it’s none of those things. According to holidash.com (who in turn credits The Deseret News) Ex-Spouse Day was actually created in 1987 by Reverend Ronald Coleman of Kansas City, MO. He didn’t create it with raunchy divorce jokes and flaming bags of dog poo in mind- his goal was healing. He proposed the day as a chance to let go of the hurt, anger, resentment, and bitterness many people feel toward their ex-spouse.
One suggestion is to clean out your closet on Ex-Spouse Day, and either return or dispose of things you are holding on to that rightfully belong to your ex. He’s sure you’ll feel better for it.
So, whether you’ll celebrate by hoisting a few and telling nasty jokes about your Ex-Spouse, or if you’ll follow Reverend Coleman’s advice and take the high moral ground- if you are an ex-spouse and have an ex-spouse, today is your day.